Kiss and Tell
Allison Kelly and Ryan Johnson
Issue date: 4/29/08 Section: Life
You are still young, and will have plenty of time to catch up to those who figured out their attraction towards the ladies earlier on. I would just encourage taking your time to figure out what kind of relationship you would like to pursue, since you now are considering members of both sexes as potential significant others.
My girlfriend seems to be living in the past. Despite the fact that we've been dating for over a year, she has pictures of ex-boyfriends plastered all over her apartment as if they are relatives or something. In addition to these framed photos, she has numerous more in boxes, and lord knows how many else are hiding. Do I have the right to ask her to remove the ex-boyfriends from her walls, boxes and life?
Alison: As far as having the right to ask her to remove them, I would say no, but you do have the right to ask her why she has them. You don't know exactly why she keeps them and you never know if you are next for her wall. Not meaning that you two will break up, but maybe that you are important enough to her that you will make the wall.
She could just be a deeply sentimental person and in asking her why she keeps them up you will be able to learn more so what kind of person feels the need to hold on to the past. In fact you could learn something from her in appreciating the loves and more so the people in her life, but I do suppose the other reason should be examined.
She could very well be keeping these pictures as a back up, if that is the case it would be best to confront her about them; then let her know how much they bother you. As of now she has no idea that old photos are an issue in the relationship, so the sooner that you confront her and explain yourself, an explanation can be met.
Ryan: One thing that a lot of guys seem to struggle with is accepting the fact that their girlfriends have probably had several other boyfriends in their past. Maybe it's just being selfish, or a paranoid sense of jealousy, but it is pretty common for the guys to have issues with their girlfriend's past that didn't revolve around them. But just because it's a common reaction doesn't mean it's something that is always acceptable.
My girlfriend seems to be living in the past. Despite the fact that we've been dating for over a year, she has pictures of ex-boyfriends plastered all over her apartment as if they are relatives or something. In addition to these framed photos, she has numerous more in boxes, and lord knows how many else are hiding. Do I have the right to ask her to remove the ex-boyfriends from her walls, boxes and life?
Alison: As far as having the right to ask her to remove them, I would say no, but you do have the right to ask her why she has them. You don't know exactly why she keeps them and you never know if you are next for her wall. Not meaning that you two will break up, but maybe that you are important enough to her that you will make the wall.
She could just be a deeply sentimental person and in asking her why she keeps them up you will be able to learn more so what kind of person feels the need to hold on to the past. In fact you could learn something from her in appreciating the loves and more so the people in her life, but I do suppose the other reason should be examined.
She could very well be keeping these pictures as a back up, if that is the case it would be best to confront her about them; then let her know how much they bother you. As of now she has no idea that old photos are an issue in the relationship, so the sooner that you confront her and explain yourself, an explanation can be met.
Ryan: One thing that a lot of guys seem to struggle with is accepting the fact that their girlfriends have probably had several other boyfriends in their past. Maybe it's just being selfish, or a paranoid sense of jealousy, but it is pretty common for the guys to have issues with their girlfriend's past that didn't revolve around them. But just because it's a common reaction doesn't mean it's something that is always acceptable.
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